Believe in Yourself and Declare Your Rarity to Yourself

. . . a different way of being humble

There may be large groups of people who appear to be the same, or at the very least, similar. But people are classified into groups to simplify talking about particular issues, not to acknowledge unique personality traits.

In reality, every person who belongs to a group will have some traits in common with other members, but they will also have many very individual traits that no one else in the group possesses. We are all miracles unto ourselves. Each of us, even identical twins, has distinct thought and emotional patterns.

Successful people understand how unique they are. They have a deeply rooted belief in themselves as individuals. That belief may be shaken on the road to success, but successful people find a way to re-group and continue on their chosen path. Discovering what makes us unique and celebrating our rarity is essential to success. We cannot achieve wealth or lasting happiness unless we believe in ourselves.

We develop belief in ourselves by becoming aware of our unique desires and passions, writing down our goals on lists, and crossing them off when they are achieved. Even when we go to the grocery store and purchase everything on the shopping list, there is a feeling of accomplishment. Each time we achieve a goal and cross it off the list, our confidence grows and so does our belief in ourselves and so does our ability to proclaim our rarity.

As we move further into this process, our emotional investment in our goals grows and we become more passionate about them. The energy of passion brings new ideas, opportunities, and people to us that in turn help us to achieve more goals. Our confidence continues to grow, and we set larger more complex goals that we feel more capable of achieving.

As we achieve larger and larger goals we find our brilliance—that absolutely unique combination of thoughts, feelings, desires and intentions that make up who we are and that allow us to create goals that express our rarity.

I haven’t shown my written goals to others. Sometimes I’ve told others about some of my goals—when I think telling them might build my confidence. Sometimes I guessed wrong, and telling others made me feel less confident.

Writing down our goals rather than talking about them has two benefits. First, it allows us to declare our rarity, just to ourselves. It’s humble that way, but we can also remain confident. Second, goals change. Not sharing them until they are achieved allows us to keep our integrity. When a goal changes or takes longer to achieve than expected, we do not have to deal with the pressure of others’ expectations.

Believing in ourselves helps us go the extra mile and keep our agreements. It helps us build our networks—people are naturally drawn to those who seem to know what they want. It gives us confidence to make choices that suit us. It encourages us to ask questions and gives rise to an innate curiosity about how we can achieve our goals.

Belief in self leads to discovering new desires and eventually to new beliefs. It allows us freedom to celebrate our own and others’ rarity.

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